Situation: A guy is dating a girl. This guy has a very close friend. This close friend once dated this girl. This girl really doesn't like this close friend that she once dated.
Problem: The girl informs the guy that unless he cuts off all contact with his close friend, their relationship is over.
1) Guy ignores close friend's all overtures at remaining in touch and eventually the close friend figures out that he is no longer close friends, or friends at all for that matter, with the guy. Reasoning: Why bother informing his friend that he can no longer be in touch with him? Nothing to gain, only pain to be handed out. The close friend knows that the guy is dating this girl he once dated and what her opinion is of him. He'll figure it out.
2) Call close friend and let him know the situation, but ignore all attempts at being persuaded from breaking up with her. Reasoning: The close friend deserves to hear it from the guy himself, and not be left hanging, wondering what happened to the close friendship they once shared. Although he'll probably figure it out, it's
still the right thing to do.
3) Break up with the girl. Reasoning: A girl that holds such a grudge that she'll force the guy she's dating to end a friendship of years, is not a good girl to date.
It's a lose-lose situation for the guy no matter how you look at it. He really likes the girl, but really doesn't want to throw away a friendship that he's had for years. What to do?
This is happening now. I know both guys personally and I know who the girl is. It's a mess. The close friend is not a bad person and not a bad influence. He made mistakes while dating her and acknowledges that he was at fault for the relationship failing and understands why she is so very upset at him.
This situation can, obviously, go the other way around too. A girl who dated a guy who had a bad experience with her close friend. The guy wants the girl he's dating to end her friendship with her close friend.
I have no idea what I would do because I've never been in this situation. If I were to hazard a guess, it would be the third option. Making huge demands before they're even engaged is bad news for what could be coming once they're married. Or, it could be a one-time shot. It's impossible to know.
Based on what I've told you, what would YOU do?